Separation Control
Did They Change? Look for PROOF
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An apology can be sincere and still not mean the pattern changed.
In this episode of Separation Control, I use PROOF to separate relief from real change:
Pattern over promises.
Repeated over rare.
Observable over assumed.
Outcomes over explanations.
Follow-through over feelings.
Use PROOF when one good conversation, apology, or burst of effort tempts you to rewrite a longer pattern.
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