Castuner

Unprocessed

Lia Avellino

We have access to more mental health information than at any other point in history, and yet anxiety & depression rates are growing. Mental health advice is tricking us into believing that we are self-improvement projects, which ironically is creating more disconnection as we hide our flaws to avoid judgment when we can't "work" our way out of our struggles. The truth is: we experience freedom by being honest about who we are, not changing who we are. I will be a therapist who risks something--revealing my least impressive sides to you, shifting the shame, and not fixing the problem.

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66 episodes

  1. The Power of The Pause/Goodbye For Now 10:50
  2. Resolving Sibling Conflict With My Daughters As Special Guests! 12:08
  3. Why Asking Why Takes Us Away, Not Closer To, The Answer 10:25
  4. We Listen To Those We Love The Least 12:31
  5. How Being a “Helpful” Partner Kills Desire In Your Relationship 8:30
  6. Is Healing Really Possible? A Dive Into My Genetics 11:03
  7. Procrastination: Delaying Reality for Possibility 9:49
  8. We Keep Ourselves From Evolving To Hold Onto People 11:46
  9. Why we gossip and what it reveals/conceals 10:45
  10. Allowing Yourself to Disappoint (Even The Important People and Things) 15:44
  11. What Is The Reality In Your Fantasy? 15:13
  12. Why does it take us to midlife to start doing what we want to do? 14:14
  13. The Difference Between Discipline and Compulsion 14:27
  14. The Courage To Say "I Don't Know" 11:22
  15. Why You're In Denial 10:33
  16. If I Know Connection is “The Thing,” Why Is It So Hard For So Many of us? 14:02
  17. Is Confronting a Necessary Part of The Healing Process? 13:21
  18. What if you love someone you don't trust? 16:29
  19. Parenting From Fear Versus Parenting From Delight 20:44
  20. What is irritability really about? 13:46
  21. What It's Like Being a Therapist Right Now 21:18
  22. To Be Admired = To Be Lonely 15:59
  23. How To Live With The Irreconcilable 9:45
  24. On Aging and Beauty 1:09:51
  25. To Be Wild Or To Be Good? 17:29
  26. The Joylessness of Doing the Work While Trying to Live Your Life 12:08
  27. Are You Getting Worse or Just Feeling More of The Truth? 16:13
  28. Say The Thing! 12:45
  29. The Sex I Didn't Have (and what to do about it) 18:54
  30. The Healing Is On You, Not Them 12:41
  31. Why The Hard Truth is Soothing 21:38
  32. When You Want to Do, But Need to Grieve 13:36
  33. Why We Stay Stuck 17:02
  34. When The Connector Feels Disconnected 16:21
  35. Men, I Need and Want Your Presence 13:14
  36. I Wanted To Say Fuck Off, But Stopped Myself 15:52
  37. Addiction--What We Can't Give Up and Why 20:02
  38. Anxiety Is Actually Non-Feeling 16:23
  39. I Have High Expectations in Relationships 11:34
  40. Getting Lost and Finding My Sense of Wonder 19:24
  41. I Don't Want You to See Me Sweat 15:09
  42. Are You Mad At Me? 18:54
  43. Why We Feel Unheard--Trying to Speak to the Heart From the Head 16:20
  44. The Appeal of Pursuing Closed Doors 11:52
  45. "I can make this work"-The Most Damaging Words 17:30
  46. The Mother Wound: Should our friends re-mother us? 23:57
  47. How to Make Mistakes 13:06
  48. The Road from Needless to Needy 21:14
  49. Desire follows Will: I don't Want to But I Will 12:32
  50. Are We Addicted To The Wanting? 12:38