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Playing With Fire

Dr. Joli Hamilton and Ken Hamilton

Welcome to Playing With Fire, the podcast for people who are ready to custom-build their love. We’re talking about non-monogamy–however you design it–as an individuation opportunity. Want to leave the default and make your life spectacularly you? You’re in the right place.

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269 episodes

  1. 264 How Middle-Age Sex Changes Everything 49:56
  2. 263 Creative, Conscious, Chosen Monogamy 47:55
  3. 262 My Partner Isn’t as Excited as I Am: Asymmetry in the Opening Process 39:55
  4. 261 Can You Love More Than One Person and Still Feel Secure? Love, Grief, and Growth with Lunarosa Peralta 58:18
  5. 260 ‘I feel seen… but not by you’ – Metamours, Jealousy, and Differentiation 38:55
  6. 259 Getting Unstuck: How a Frozen Imagination Blocks the Relationship You Want 55:03
  7. 258 Patterns of Harm Need Patterns of Repair: Rethinking Closure 32:41
  8. 257 Conflict as Growth: Deepening Intimacy through Disagreement 51:11
  9. 256 Leaving High-Demand Religion and Exploring Non-Monogamy with Natasha Helfer 48:43
  10. 255 When should we start making agreements in NEW relationships? 49:13
  11. 254 How to Figure Out What You Want and Need: An Insider’s Experience of YOO 1:04:49
  12. 253 The Shadow of Compersion 43:11
  13. 252 Triad Life in a World of Couples with Margo, Jody & Chris 1:15:04
  14. 251 Trailblazing vs Following: The Hidden Dynamic That May Be Creating Resentment 48:49
  15. 250 Relationship Re‑Imagination: The Framework 2:24:35
  16. [Replay] 194 Re-Imagining Relationships 51:52
  17. 249 Is Your Non‑Monogamy Actually Just Two Monogamies? 48:47
  18. 248 Beyond People-Pleasing: Practicing Healthy Autonomy in Relationships 44:33
  19. 247 Non-Monogamy, Mono-Mind: The Invisible Scripts Running Your Communication 42:17
  20. 246 We Opened up Too Fast. What Do We Do Now? 52:40
  21. 245 Check-Ins That Actually Work 41:21
  22. 244 But I Feel like I’m Gonna Die: What Happens When Agreements Meet Attachment Panic 51:36
  23. 243 Making Decisions Together: Permission, Consultation, and Notification in Relationships 43:55
  24. 242 Betrayal Repair in Non-Monogamy 1:14:41
  25. 241 Betrayal & Non-Monogamy with Eve Rickert 52:39
  26. [Replay] 222 The Greater the Tension, the Greater the Potential: Individuating in Relationships 42:18
  27. 240 The Alchemy of Erotic Jealousy & Compersion: A Reverse-Interview with Dr. Marie Thouin & Dr. Joli Hamilton 59:18
  28. [Replay] 229 Shadow Work in Relationships: What We Keep From Ourselves 38:42
  29. [Replay] 177 Shadow Dance: Navigating Projections in Relationships 48:51
  30. [Replay] 105 Shadow Work: What if your monsters were trying to help you live the life you always wanted? 45:29
  31. [Replay] 164 I HATE THIS: Get Unstuck with Existential Kink (A shadow work method) 54:47
  32. 239 Radical Relating with Mel Cassidy 55:08
  33. 238 Thriving in Long-Distance Relationships 31:44
  34. 237 The Art & Practice of Shedding Mono-Normativity 46:29
  35. 236 Co-Creating Magnificent Sex 58:23
  36. 235 I Think I'm Polyamorous, But I'm in a Monogamous Marriage 41:22
  37. 234 How to Figure Out What You Want (And Why It’s So Damn Hard) 39:37
  38. 233 The Case for ‘Boring’ Polyamory 33:17
  39. 232 How to Keep Going When Non-Monogamy Feels Too Hard 40:54
  40. 231 The Holiday Survival Guide for Polyamorous People 36:19
  41. 230 Can Trauma Survivors Do Non-Monogamy? 46:06
  42. 229 Shadow Work in Relationships: What We Keep From Ourselves 38:55
  43. 228 “I Only Get the Hard Parts”: Living with Asymmetry in Polyamory and Life 47:26
  44. 227 Transforming Shame into Love with Jessica Fern and David Cooley 46:05
  45. 226 The Secret Sauce of Happy Non-Monogamy: Exquisite Transition Management 39:51
  46. 225 Fears, Hopes, and Aftercare: Preparing for Polycule Gatherings 36:24
  47. 224 Relationship Anarchy with Dr. Nicole Thompson 54:33
  48. 223 Recovering From Purity Culture with Lauren Elise Barnes 50:53
  49. 222 The Greater the Tension, the Greater the Potential: Individuating in Relationships 42:33
  50. 221 The Art of Reassurance: Relating Through Doubt and Fear 37:07